Meteoric Star

Big Four target Andersen assets
Sunday, August 18, 2002
Tina-Marie O’Neill
The fall of Arthur Andersen, one of the world’s Big Five accounting firms, indicted on an obstruction of justice charge for shredding Enron-related documents, has presented the remaining four accounting giants with a huge opportunity.

They are now targeting Andersen assets — including partners — without assuming any of Andersen’s legal liabilities.

Andersen’s non-US affiliates brought in more than half of the firm’s revenue in the fiscal year ended August 31, 2001. They have actively sought to join rival accounting firms due to concern that Andersen would not survive client defections and Enron shareholder lawsuits. Andersen Worldwide employs 85,000 people at its 84 member firms.

Of the four other accountancy firms — Ernst & Young (E&Y), Deloitte &Touche (D&T), PricewaterhouseCoopers and KPMG — E&Y and D&T appear to have benefited most from the breakup of Andersen’s worldwide auditing network.

According to the Lafferty Group’s International Accounting Bulletin (IAB), KPMG’s attempts to close the gap between itself and PwC have been scuppered. IAB called the KPMG and PwC acquisitions scraps, in comparison to their larger rivals.

According to Martin Coyle, editor of The Accountant, D&T’s acquisition of Andersen units in Spain and Portugal is important as they are a gateway to Andersen’s Latin American units. Also, Britain’s Andersen unit is the biggest fee earner in Europe.

E&Y did well to acquire Andersen’s German unit, which, according to Coyle, is worth €500 million in fee income. France is also big and many of the central European units offer clients in emerging markets.

KPMG scored its own coup last week when it announced its plans to acquire up to 23 business consulting units of Andersen Worldwide’s member firms. The acquisition will cost up to $284 million.

Andersen Worldwide is the last of the Big Five accounting firms to break away from its business consulting units. The split is aimed at avoiding conflicts of interest and compromising the independence of its auditors.

KPMG Consulting is no longer associated with its former parent company, KPMG International. Ernst & Young International sold its consulting unit to Cap Gemini in 2000. PwC is divorcing itself from its consulting unit, and Deloitte & Touche is separating from Deloitte Consulting as a result of Andersen’s problems.

With clients now taking a closer look at their auditing firms, criticism has been levelled at former Securities and Exchange Commission chairman Arthur Levitt, who has emerged as a public critic of the auditing industry after Enron.

Levitt is accused of deliberately misleading the public into thinking that companies which offer both audit and consulting services pose a conflict of interest.

When the other accounting firms enter a merger with Andersen affiliates, the deal is subject to approval from regulatory authorities. Also, 90 per cent of the partners of each office must be in agreement. In the meantime, small company clients of Andersen Worldwide do not know who their auditor will be. Mergers offer the accountancy firms bigger portfolios, a wider client base, experienced Andersen Worldwide staff to service those clients and a larger market share, not to mention increased revenues. None of the audit merger’s financial details have been released.

Andersen has built a strong practice in the utilities and transportation sectors. Industry observers say that E&Y and D&T would benefit from Andersen’s business, as they have maintained strong practices in those sectors.

Andersen’s consulting firms in the US, Europe, Asia and South America notched up a combined revenue of $1.4 billion last fiscal year. KPMG Consulting reported revenues of $2.85 billion for the 2001 fiscal year.

One Andersen lawyer told Newsday.com: “A slimmer Arthur Andersen with fewer than 10,000 workers may be able to survive lawsuits, a criminal trial, fleeing partners and bolting clients if the accounting firm can sell off business units unfettered.

However, if those transactions are hampered by requirements to first obtain court approval and explain sale terms to plaintiffs in shareholder lawsuits against the firm, the value of those units could drop by millions of dollars.”

The Big Four have been accused of sitting back and watching Andersen crumble before stepping in and cherrypicking the clients and units they want. According to Coyle, the mergers suit both parties. Andersen firms couldn’t survive on their own post-Enron.

On a visit to New Zealand last month, global chief executive of E&Y, Bill Kimsey, told National Radio reporters that having four major international accounting companies is enough to ensure the industry has rigorous standards.

He said: “The way we have gone from five to four obviously is unappealing to all of us, but if you look at most major industries worldwide, there are three to four players and I think that will work fine for our industry.”

As a result of the Enron-Andersen affair, Kimsey said: “A lot of corporations are looking at Enron to see could it happen to us, what do we need to avoid it, to be sure, absolutely positive it doesn’t happen to us.”

Success is no measured by what a man accomplishes,

Worst miserable period of my lifetime…

Compounded adversities killed my characters. People who are given up are ruled by their darkest mistakes, worst failures and greatest depressions, I always believe as long you move forward, you’d see the light at end of the tunnel.

For the past one year, neither had I realized my characters change nor could I turn the tides against me, as I was flung into a horrible nightmare.

My buddy was wondering what has happened to the ever optimistic and patient shenghong. My eldest sister was saying to me, my lovely brother is not behaving like that, before I left to USA for work assignment.

Again it’s easier to be said than done, I wish people could put themselves into my shoes. After deep considerations, I felt it’s vital to share whatsoever in the miserable past one year, so people could understand why I’ve lost my cool and let my emotions took over my head, becoming an unknown somebody…

Okie, Let’s start from the root of the problems:-

December 2007 was the retirement of my then 65 years old father from Mahkota Medical Centre, Malacca. Both of my parents were retirees, truly understand he had no choice but reduce the monthly allowance of mine.

That month and the month before were really driving me crazy, as I attempted four ACCA exams in-one-go for December 2007 sittings, namely F8 Audit, P1 Pro Accountant, P2 Corp Reporting and P3 Biz Analysis. From 8am sharp until midnight 2am, I was in college foyer making revisions for 2 months, squeezing whatever time left just to ensure I cover at least 80% of each paper.

I knew that I’d to pass no matter what it takes, not only for self-actualization (complete ACCA within 2.5 years) but also meeting financial constraints. In reality, the latter means more as I knew that my savings and scholarship could only last that long for end meets. Why did I say so?

I’m someone never wanted to request money from parent. Even during secondary schooling days up to form 6, I survived on federal government scholarship “Biasiswa Persekutuan” monthly with only RM10 weekly from parent. Therefore I could not really have normal youth life just like my friends, could buy original CD of their favourite artists, going for movies and shopping.

When I was in Sunway University studying ACCA, was lucky enough to obtain Tan Sri Jeffrey Cheah Entrance Scholarship. I rejected UPM offer, therefore I’m not eligible for PTPTN. Ever since I joined Sunway ACCA in September 2005, I have restructured my whole life finances in a way that it is enough to supplement my parent’s allowance to cover every expense I’d in my studying life, at least last until June 2008.

Actually my dad gave me RM500-600 monthly between the period of Sept 2005 – December 2007. Of course you would say it’s enough, I’d say it wasn’t. RM600 – RM200 (Petrol) – RM 150 (Accommodation) – RM30 (Handphone Top-up) = RM220. That means I’d only RM7.33 daily for my foods & drinks and etc. I’m not local boy, I’m Malaccan who needs to spend 2 meals a day. Other expenses such as groceries, shampoo, soap, washing detergent, haircut expense, futsal fee, bus tickets to Malacca, stationeries and ACCA notes, totaling up to RM200 monthly, had to be absorbed by my own purse.

I did not want to ask for more because I knew my father’s ultra conservative character, he would definitely say that if your eldest sister could survive in KL with only RM500 11years ago, why couldn’t you? Therefore I’d made a master plan to ensure myself able to cover everything, by using my bank savings and whatever scholarships I’d got in the past.

January 2008

Soon after December 2007, my dad retired and decided to reduce my monthly to RM500. I did not object as was trying to be an understanding son. Life sooner became very difficult, as the global crude oil price kept surging and it inevitably had increased our country petrol from RM1.70 to RM2.70. This means I’d to restructure my finance for end meet, lower allowance RM500 with higher expenses resulting from price hike in every daily item.

The hardest hit is of course my petrol expense, which is increased to RM320 (RM200 x 2.70 / 1.70). I’d to travel from One Utama to Sunway College to attend classes everyday. Monthly budget would be RM500 – RM150 (accommodation) – RM320 (Petrol) – RM30 (Handphone top-up) = RM0. Basically, I was left penniless but surviving on my finances, all my focus have shifted to survival rather than studies. I cooked twice a day to save costs!

January was also the month I’d problem in term of choosing the last 2 ACCA optional papers. My indecisiveness resulted in me attending all 4 optional papers, wasting a lot of time. I knew that I’m very strong in theoretical papers, but was told that P5 is easy and P4 more useful. In the end, I did not heed my friends’ advice by choosing P5 and P4, both calculation papers.

February 2008

After CNY, thank god I received red packets which calm me down a little bit. However the result is coming soon, was praying hard for it, or else I might die of hunger in PJ because have to fork out a lot of money to resit it. That month February, 3 of our female housemates get married and shifted out, leaving 3 rooms empty.

2^nd week of February came calling, sigh of relief that I managed to clear all 4 papers in one go, was really happy as I moving closer to the finish line. I passed all 4 papers with flying colours unexpectedly.

Just had I thought of nothing to worry anymore, the sky fell onto me. I was involved in serious car accident with few cars, in the junction of Sunway Hospital. The traffic lights of every junction turned green at once, so every car bangs into each other at centre, so did mine. I was really stunned and worried, I didn’t care I have any injury or not, my concern is my car and compensation I’d to fork out, because my father will surely kill me, had I informed him about that. I have to spend more than four figures to repair the damages, I was left with only RM500 in my bank after that.

March 2008

I told myself to be tough, 3 more months and that’s it. Things worsen, I was under tremendous pressure from my parent, to find 3 new tenants for the 3 empty rooms (RM330 x 3 = RM990). My parent scolded me that I should lessen my eldest sister house rental burden by finding new tenants, so I helped.

However, my eldest sister and bro-in-law in oversea did not want to rent it out, due to my 3^rd sister mental problem. At that point of time, my 3^rd sister had just been cheated by an useless guy, beside failing all her 3 ACCA papers, which caused her emotionally unstable and a little bit insane. She quitted Ernst & Young Tax, was basically someone lost everything.

Neglected my studies, I found 3 new tenants for my eldest sister, under my parent’s instruction. I thought my eldest sister would be thankful. Unfortunately, everything turned from bad to worse. I was really speechless because I was scolded heavily and bro-in-law called me gets out from the house, for not listening to their order not to rent it out.

I was really angry, how could someone not being thankful, but put all the blames on me, and challenged me to live outside if not listening to them. My heart was totally wrecked by this incident, as my eldest sister taught me so much since childhood days, not only academically but also in sports and public-speaking. My parent pretend nothing has happened as usual, I was left with no choice but to find a new place.

With RM500 savings left in bank, I braved myself to search for a new place despite I knew that every landlord would demand 2 months deposits + 1 month utilities deposit to rent it out. I searched but could not find any place willing to rent without the deposits. I spent all my time daily to patrol around PJ, Subang and sunway areas. My dignity was totally fell onto the floor, because I’ve no choice but to live there despite being challenged to move out.

April 2008

April arrived, I started to skip classes in order to save my petrol and meals expense. I could not stop every relationship deteriorates, as my 3^rd sister could not accept the fact that she’d failed all 3 ACCA Part 1 papers, inspite of me passing 4 higher level papers. She started to push all the blames to me in order to savage her pride, complained to parent and eldest sister that I did not teach her how to study ACCA.

I was terribly upset that she uttered such a sentence as she is my elder sister, 7 years older than me and more matured than me. Not only that, she study every paper in Sunway University too, I told her to revise past years and study hard as well.

Basically, my parent and bro-in-law misunderstood and scolded me being selfish, never concern for her studies progress. At one point, I wondered does her result has anything to do with me? Luckily my friend consoled me that it was not my fault, else I would really have the guilt of seeing her failed every paper.

The whole April, I could not concentrate on my studies with all these adverse circumstances.

May 2008

The most important month of 2008 arrived silently, finals were around the corner, and still I could not focus on my studies. I wanted to run away to college foyer to make revision, unfortunately I’d to think for my mounting expenses, trying hard to reduce my petrol expense.

I did not share my problems with my friends, therefore they misunderstood me that thinking I was over-confident, didn’t want to study like the previous semester anymore. As someone always keeps my problems within myself, I really have hard time to swallow those bitter pills at home. 2 weeks to finals, I was really panicked and started to go college study, though wasn’t in right frame of mind.

That particular month, KPMG offered me a permanent A2 auditor position in Petaling Jaya HQ. I wanted so much to work immediately due to my finance difficulty, again my parent fired me heavily as they want me to pass every paper first. I was very upset as have to reject the offer RM2450/mth.

June 2008

As expected I did badly in finals, but I knew that I could do better, it was just lack of time due to slow handwriting and lacked of practices. I was really happy that my friends called me to Lang Tengah vacation, luckily my mother willing to sponsor me that sum.

In Lang Tengah, I felt really happy though having a lot of worries within me. At night everyone was singing karaoke happily, staring at the far-away Pulau Redang. I was telling myself that “Opposite is your dream, now you’ll have to find a way to there on your own”.

July 2008

Immediately after the vacation, I updated my resume and send it to Ernst & Young. Within 1 month, Natalie Kuan called me for an interview on 2^nd week of August. I went; unfortunately I’d been too honest toward her and gave unconvincing answer about my finals results passing possibility. Since it was just 4 days before results day, Natalie requested all candidates to wait for finals result in order to give better assessment.

August 2008

Final results released, as expected I failed, it’s so heartbreaking to see my border-line marks. As per requested I updated Natalie my finals result, immediately she called me to resit first and reapply in January 2009. I was so disappointed, because Ernst & Young had always been my first choice. I always feel PwC- My Dream Firm is destined for those elite students, therefore never had I dare to think of them.

However, I braved myself and applied PwC. Again I missed da bus, the HR informed me that I’m already late for the September 2008 batch. The HR asked if I interested to join the next batch which is on December 2008, I agreed and they promised to arrange assessment date for me.

I tried to call KPMG, the HR would not want to entertain me again as I’ve rejected their offer earlier. So, I have no choice but to hang on to my studies.

September 2008 – November 2008

I tried to study, but it’s really hard to take it. Watching all my plans fell on earth, it’s all about timing difference only. I have regrets of never putting any reference in resume too. One thing I dislike Ernst & Young is because they really see your family background.

That period, I learnt a nice young lady from degree graduation; she made me happy and confident again. After many happy conversations, she decided to leave me because she could not forget her ex-bf who have betrayed her 3 months ago. I was left badly dejected because we developed special feelings, but far from love. That was 1 month before exam, I went to foyer everyday, yet my disappointments got into my head always.

I’d decided to drop P4 for P7, I was searching around for a tidy handwriting P7 notes from those who have passed it. I did not attend any class, as it was too late and could not afford to pay for the tuition fees.

That point of time, one of my best buddies wanted to borrow P7 notes from Malaysia prizers ex-classmate, someone I’ve highest respects. Unfortunately, I rejected the offer due to a related party. In the end, it took me 3 weeks to get a free notes from Janette, a super-nice friend who had dropped the paper. I promised had I pass it, I would treat her TGI Friday if I started work.

November 2008

1st Nov, I started to study P7 notes from page 1, totally an unfamiliar subject. I went to foyer to study, unfortunately It did not last long until midnight. I would go home around 11-12am just to online to catch up with the young LCCI lady, as I was really concern for her sadness, the guy kept calling her for flirting forgiveness. Basically, my focus on studies was badly distorted.

December 2008

I re-attempt my exams and feeling great afterwards. I was highly confident that I would pass it even though I only managed to complete 77% of P7 and 80% of P5. As usual, that’s me, I always have to blank around 15-20% for every paper since ACCA Part2 due to my super-slow handwriting speed. Worse is my 2.2 Law, I blanked 30%, really hate it because it is da paper cost me the first class honours.

Immediately after my exams, PricewaterhouseCoopers called me twice. The first call I was sleeping, I was extremely thankful that they called me on the next day. I attend the assessment on 16^th December 2008, and I passed every test.

One 17^th December 2008, the HR personnel gave me a call for interview appointment. The HR personnel said I was full of enthusiasm during the assessment, they would be happy to see me working for PricewaterhouseCoopers soon.

I sent few sms to all my fellow PwC friends, unfortunately there’s none of them reply to my number 017 2238880, even friends I gave my utmost respects. I only wanting to ask what should I do during the interview, I really thank Penangite Adrian for willing to give me valuable advices, he’s such a friendly friend. I couldn’t sleep the whole night, preparing myself for the interview.

Early in the morning at 6am, I woke up and prepared myself. I was supposedly to attend the interview on 9am with a CIPSPLAS director. That morning, I was waiting for LRT at Kelana LRT Station at 8am. I was really stunned to see the long queue, as afraid of late attending the interview. On 830am only I managed to get into the LRT.

Kept looking at my watch, I reached KL Sentral at 855am. Once the LRT commuter door is opened, I ran as fast as I could to reach PwC. Just imagine a young man in formal suit was running 3km from KL Sentral station to 1Sentral, just to fulfil his dream.

I was not late, it was 9am sharp!!! The HR lady was smiling at me, because I was sweating and breathing heavily. Before I could sit down, the Senior manager called me into the room, he was looking at my sweat-soaked formal suits. He asked is it I woke up late, I told him the whole story, but he didn’t look convinced.

Bad luck fell on me, he is happened to be those very rare managers who will ask freshie about general knowledges and technical questions. I made a fatal mistake, I said I wish to join CIPS1, because I love the Real Estates and Property industry. He was not happy, and told me that I can only join CIPSPLAS if I pass the interview. I felt I was the most stupid man on earth for uttering that sentence.

Initially the interview went smoothly, but soon after he realized I was weak in technical questions, he kept attacking the similar area. I could not answer many questions regarding the property industry, eg. What is HDA? What is basis of revenue recognition for construction contract? recession crisis - housing loan? Etc technical stuffy. I flunked the fella interview, walking out from the room like an idiot.

As soon I walked out from 1Sentral, I looked at the sky and asked god:” Have you done playing with me!” Other friends told me that their interviews were very easy, just got to answer those interests, hobbies and experience questions, I became even more frustrated.

On 19 December 2008, I received reject mail from PwC, the HR said they would want to take me had I been an ACCA Affiliate. I went into solitude soon after that, because why everything is so near yet so far. Almost PwC-ian, but I blew my chance. It hurted me deeply, I could not face anyone, I failed my family faith on me, parent’s dream, and my dreamfirm shattered. I informed that young LCCI lady that I failed it, she scolded me heavily for sharing da news with her, it’s really sad.

To be continued with 2009…….

I’ve nobody turn to afterwards, everything in 2008 was so miserable to the extent that I wish it could disappear from my mind forever. I lost friends after that, everyone thought I only wanted to work for my Dreamfirm, thought I was such an arrogant person, in fact It wasn’t the case.

Today, I’m really a proud man, that I survived the darkness period financially, but also emotionally and mentally. I did not share my problems with anyone, I solved everything myself and never worry my family. I did not request a single cent more from my parent, I passed P7 1st attempt, by self-study 1month without attending normal classes, and I managed to secure Big4 job. Up to today, I did not reveal all these difficulties I had to face, because I’m still the limshenghong who want only people around me happy with no worries.

I realized that I’d many friends after I passed 4 papers in December 2007, I became instant hero. Now I’m happy to know who are my genuine true friends who willing to go thru the thick and thin with me. I could not repay anything, but I promised myself that I’ll be there for them anytime during difficult time.

I admitted that I lost my cool during my darkness period, sometimes I might be over-reacted and blog something inappropriate, please do understand I was really frustrated and depressed that everything is so near yet so far… Everyone needs to release, I’d always feel that it’s better to release in blog rather than to people, because Blog doesn’t have feelings, at least I don’t hurt or trouble anyone.

The end of the WORST MISERABLE PERIOD OF MY LIFE… I knew that I’m 10 times tougher man now, neither I cry nor give up my fights. I’m working very hard daily to regain back everything I’d lost in 2008, people can looking down at me, you can throw insults to me, s/he can laugh at me, but I would say “So be it, I’m still the spiritual lone ranjer who will never give up the fight for my dreams”.

Often friends asked me:” what is my ambition?”

In the past, my childhood dream is to have a happy family and became a dentist/doctor. I love to save people, I love to see people smile again. Unfortunately, I could not make it 4A flat in STPM, therefore I’d no choice but to forget it, private college is just ways too expensive RM300k-500k.

Since I decided to pursue the cost-savings ACCA, I’d always wanting to reach the pinnacle of corporate ladder. If god willing, my Dream is to set up a property company “FateFaithFight Corp” which part of it’s profits will be channeled to the unfortunate ones, those in pain, and to sponsor those talented ones to fulfil their potentials. I’ve shown my commitment by joining Red Crescent Society and various charity organizations, I’m really happy to watch those sour faces turned happily smiling.

My close friends always say I would become a Big4 director one day, but I don’t really think so, as it required too many commitments. I valued my family a lot to the sense that I willing to let go everything just to be with the girl I loved and my family. My ex-gf recently advised me strongly that never give up what you’d for your girl, because I told her that I would not mind to let all my finances to be managed by my wife. My ex-gf strongly object, saying that I should not be controlled by my other half again.

Anyway, I’m really happy I became buddy with her, I guess that’s pretty good because both of us share poor background, she’s been very supportive for whatever I did, even 100% we will never become couple again. It is always a pleasure to have another true buddy for advices, else I always do stupid things in LOVE =___=”

Of course I’d other dreams, I do not usually share it because I afraid of myself couldn’t make it happen. Another well-known dream of mine is to visit the Seven Wonders of da World for my honeymoon hehe… I guess my close friends can still remember my Red Crescent Society Campfire 2002 title “Sevvonders”, it is actually Seven Wonders of da World chosen by me, my ex-gf was there too =)

I’m not dreamer, I’m dreamy, definitely I will make all my dreams come true.

錯過一時，錯過一生，会吗？

　　生活有時陰差陽錯，你錯過了一時，就似乎錯過了一生。

　　有個男孩，在學校的新生聯歡會上認識了一個女孩。女孩笑如春花，聰明活潑，男孩對她幾乎是一見鍾情，卻沒有表露。因爲男孩剛經過高中階段循規蹈矩式的教育，對男女感情小心翼翼得令人難以置信，他想：“再等等吧，等一切成熟些，再向她說。”

　　一年多後的一個夜晚，男孩終於鼓足勇氣約女孩出來，向她表達了心中的愛意？沒想到，平時伶俐的女孩結結巴巴地說：“我……我想我不能接受……你的好意，一個星期以前……我已經……接受了另一個……男孩……我真的……不知道你……會喜歡我……”女孩說完就跑掉了，沒有讓男孩看到她濕潤的眼。

　　後來，有人看到男孩同學校的“校花”經常出雙入對，大家都以爲他看中了“校花”的美貌，誰也沒有注意，“校花”有著和女孩一樣的春花般的笑容，非常相似，所以誰都沒有發現男孩的苦心。但是沒過多久，男孩與“校花”的愛情就以分手告吹。

　　大學生活很快就結束了。畢業後，女孩披上了嫁衣成了別人的新娘，而男孩再沒有戀愛過。因爲他清楚，只有這個女孩才是他今生唯一的至愛。

　　男孩從朋友那裏輾轉打聽到女孩的生日和地址，每到女孩生日時，他就會叫人送去九朵郁金香（他不知道女孩最喜歡什麽花，他自已最喜歡郁金香）。男孩知道女孩已爲人婦，所以他從來不在卡片裏留下姓名和聯繫號碼，他不想因爲自已的感情而影響女孩的生活。

　　幾年時間轉眼就過去了，男孩依然是形隻影單，依然記得每年都送花給女孩。就在女孩生日的前兩天，男孩參加了一個同學聚會，他聽說女孩在這幾年裏經歷了兩次離婚，如今也是獨身，心裏又是心疼又高興？他爲女孩遭遇了感情的不幸而心疼，又爲自已再次有了機會而高興……

　　終於等到了女孩的生日！男孩興奮得難以言狀！他想這次一定要親自把花送去，再向她表白。爲此，他幾乎逛遍了所有的花店，最後挑選了最美的花朵郁金香。

　　當小姐把花包紮好的刹那，男孩在卡片裏寫下幾個字：你知道我在愛你嗎？！男孩英俊的臉上灑滿了笑意與渴望，逕直向街心走去……

　　就在那時，一輛逆行貨車撞倒了他……

　　女孩在收到郁金香的同時也收到了男孩的死訊。

　　女孩明白了一切，她把自已鎖在了房間裏哭了整整一夜。她回想起多年前的那個夜晚，男孩對她的表白？她一直不知道　，這近10年來，男孩是如此執著而癡迷地愛著她！想到這裏，她就哭得更傷心，奔瀉的淚水將郁金香浸染得無限淒美。女孩知道，她失去了今生難遇難求的至愛。

　　然而，長眠的男孩肯定也不知道，女孩最喜歡的，正是郁金香……
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喜欢这个故事，所以把它贴入部落，但不希望有相似的结果。我欣赏的女生在 数一数二的会计公司 工作，好久没见面了，不想错过期望的 快乐 。虽然没有来往，这两个月很高兴 看见欣赏的女生上网，与更新facebook照相，至少看到她在远方过得好，希望有一天能和她 再会。很好奇，男生会不喜欢女生比较聪明吗？反而我是相反的，不是我的要求，但觉得聪明是一个优点，我很欣赏！除非你是个小男人，或想偷吃的小火仔，怕被老婆捉到 哈哈，开玩笑而已啦。－宏－

GoodCharacters+ Simple+ SmartClever+ SweetBeautiful= DreamGirl

喜欢听演奏曲的我， 天天都有听这手悦耳动听的奏曲
LOVE STORY (Taylor Swift) meets VIVA LA VIDA (Coldplay)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0v3d6SFcDys

Malaysia yang lebih dikenalikan sebagai BolehLand, kini berjaya mencipta sejarah dunia lagi, sistem demokrasi yang terlacur and dicurangi pemimpin-pemimpin BN yang bertindak sewenang-wenangnya untuk kepentingan diri sendiri, bermaharajalela dengan tidak mengambil peduli terhadap keluhuran perlembagaan and kedaulatan undang-undang yang tertakluk dalam perlembagaan, iaitu institusi undang-undang tertinggi Malaysia.

Detik detik yang bersejarah ini berlaku di Darul Ridzuan, menerusi tak lain tak bukan Parti UMNO yang kerakusan kuasa, merampas kuasa kerajaan Perak Pakatan Rakyat yang diberi mandat rakyat. Sogokan jutaan wang ringgit dicurah untuk membeli wakil-wakil rakyat Dewan Undangan Negeri (DUN) Perak, supaya kerajaan sah Perak ditumbangkan menerusi cara lompatan parti yang tidak beretika dan memalukan Malaysia di mata dunia.

Pasukan keselamatan polis, FRU dan RELA yang sepatutnya berkhidmat untuk menjaga keselamatan rakyat, berterusan disogok dan dimanipulasikan sebegini rupa hanya demi melampiaskan kepentingan politik UMNO-BN, makanya jangan sekali-kali petik dan rasa hairan mengapakah jenayah ragut, kes culik dan rasuah gagal dibenteras, malahan meningkat ke tahap yang membimbangkan.

Mengimbas kembali kepada rampasan kuasa yang haram ini, Malaysia menjadi negara pertama di dunia yang pada satu masa mempunyai dua menteri besar, dua speaker DUN, dan dua set exco di satu negeri. Mata rakyat digampuri dengan berita media dimanipulasikan oleh kuasa pembesar yang terdesak ini, menceritakan bahawa kerajaan haram yang baru ini adalah sah di sisi undang-undang, padahalnya kerajaan baru ini ditubuhkan tidak menurut peruntukan yang sedia ada dalam undang-undang tubuh negeri Perak. Tiada undi tidak percaya diadakan dan kerajaan yang sah dulu juga tidak pernah meletak jawatan, oleh yang demikian Perdana Menteri baru Najis Razak ini telah menubuhkan kerajaan haram, satu detik hitam ke atas demokrasi di negara yang tercinta ini.

Insiden kecoh yang berlaku di DUN Perak 7Mei yang lalu bukan saja memburukan imej negara, juga telah menghancurkan segala institusi undang-undang tertinggi yang merupakan satu-satunya pelindung kepada kepentingan rakyat. Suara rakyat, suara keramat, kita kini berdepan dengan kerajaan BN yang takut berdepan dengan pilihanraya, tidak pernah dalam sejarah mana-mana persidangan dewan legislatif yang menyaksikan orang-orang tertentu menyalahgunakan pasukan polis untuk mengheret keluar Speaker DUN dan menghalangkan orang bersidang di DUN sehingga terpaksalah mengadakannya di bawah pokok.

Ipoh amat merupai kawasan peperangan akhir akhir ini, dengan kawalan ketat FRU, polis dan pihak berkuasa. Inikah 1Malaysia Konsep yang dipromosikan? Sudahkah anda lupa, pada tahun 1987 seorang menteri menjunjung keris di persidangan UMNO berkata ingin membasahkan keris dengan darah orang cina? Sedih melihat orang ini telah menjadi perdana menteri yang ketujuh, Dialah Najib Mongolia. Tiada siasatan dilaksanakan untuk menyiasat penglibatan Kementerian Najib dalam kes commissen kapal selam, jet sukhoi yang membabit beratusan juta wang ringgit, motif Altantuya dibunuh juga masih menjadi persoalan, siapakah dalang di sebalik batu?  

Ini jelas menunjukkan mereka ini tidak menghormati dokrin sistem pengasihan kuasa yang mengasingkan kuada eksekutif, kehakiman, dan juga perundangan. Orang-orang bawahan ditahan oleh polis tanpa sebab, dihalang daripada mempraktikkan hak asasi manusia kebebasan berhimpun dan bersuara, jelaslah ada arahan atasan yang sedang cemas melihat kedudukan mereka terancam.

Bagi menyelesaikan persimpangan mati politik yang melanda Negeri Perak ini, Dewan Undangan Negeri mesti dibubarkan serta merta, untuk membolehkan rakyat menentukan kerajaan yang memperolehi kepercayaan mereka untuk memerintah supaya krisis politik dapat ditamatkan, barulah usaha memulihkan ekonomi boleh menjadi tumpuan utama semua rakyat jelata. 

Saudara saudari, marilah kita memberikan sokongan padu kepada Kerajaan Pakatan Rakyat Perak yang bertunkus rumus mempertahankan kedaulatan undang-undang dan keluhuran perlembagaan. Marilah terus memberikan sokongan moral kepada mereka ini yang dizalimi oleh Pembesar-pembesar BN yang bertindak mengamalkan undang-undang rimba. Pejuangan serta usaha untuk menjadikan Malaysia sebuah negara yang maju lagi bertamadun tidak akan tercapai, selagi pemimpin dan akar umbi BN yang menindas rakyat tidak diusir keluar dari gengaman kuasa eksekutif.

Sekarang krisis dunia yang melanda ekonomi serantau dan kemelutan politik Perak telah melumpuhkan segala usaha perubahan, maka generasi muda umpama kita mesti bersatu padu tanpa mengira kaum, agama, dan warna kulit demi merealisasikan impian sebuah Malaysia yang baru dan maju. Hidup rakyat, Hapuskan politik perkauman!

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Krisis Perak Yang Tenat

NgaKorMing- Perak Crisis By Najib

Has been 6 years since I last wrote a Malay article, used to be a freelance BM writer. Dont wish to neglect this language which I once mastered very well, thats why included it in my blog.

-Nukilan LimShengHong-

人生就象个找寻爱的过程，每个人的人生会遇上的四个人 。

第一个是自己,
第二个是你最爱的人，
第三个是最爱你的人，
第四个是共度一生的人.

首先会遇到你最爱的人，然後体会到爱的感觉；
因为了解被爱的感觉，所以才能发现最爱你的人；
当你经历过爱人与被爱，学会了爱，才会知道什么是你需要的，
也才会找到最适合你，能够相处一辈子的人。

但很悲哀的，在现实生活中，这三个人通常不是同一个人；
你最爱的，往往没有选择你；
最爱你的，往往不是你最爱的；
而最长久的，偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的，
只是在最适合的时间出现的那个人。

你，会是别人生命中的第几个人呢？
没有人是故意要变心的，他爱你的时候是真的爱你，
可是他不爱你的时候也是真的不爱你了，
他爱你的时候没有办法假装不爱你；
同样的，他不爱你的时候也没有办法假装爱你 。
当一个人不爱你要离开你，
你要问自己还爱不爱他，
如果你也不爱他了，千万别为了可怜的自尊而不肯离开；
如果你还爱他，你应该会希望他过得幸福快乐，
希望他跟真正爱的人在一起，绝不会阻止，
你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福，就表示你已经不爱他了，
而如果你不爱他，你又有什么资格指责他变心呢？

爱不是占有，
你喜欢月亮，不可能把月亮拿下来放在脸盆里，
但月亮的光芒仍可照进你的房间。
换句话说，你爱一个人，也可以用另一种方式拥有，
让爱人成为生命里的永恒回忆，
如果你真爱一个人，就要爱他原来的样子─爱他的好，也爱他的坏：
爱他的优点，也爱他的缺点，
绝不能因为爱他，就希望他变成自己所希望的样子，
万一变不成就不爱他了。

真正爱一个人是无法说出原因的，
你只知道无论何时何地、心情好坏，你都希望这个人陪著你；
真正的感情是两人能在最艰苦中相守，也就是没有丝毫要求。
毕竟，感情必须付出，而不是只想获得；
分开是一种必然的考验，
如果你们感情不够稳固，只好认输，
真爱是不会变成怨恨的。

两人在谈情说爱的时候，
最喜欢叫对方发誓，许下承诺我们为什么要对方发誓，
就是因为我们不相信对方，我们根本不相信情人，
而这些山盟海誓又很不切实际：
海枯石烂、地老天荒，都不能改变我对你的爱!
明知道海不会枯、石不会烂、地不会老、天不会荒；
就算会，也活不到那时候。

许下诺言的时候千万注意，不要许下可以实现的诺言，
最好是承诺做不到的事，
反正做不到的，随便说说也不要紧，
请记住：”不可能实现的诺言最动人”
在爱情里，说的是一套，做的是另一套；
讲的人不相信，听的人也不相信。
你呢？找到了第几个？
茫茫人海中，你遇见了谁？谁又遇见了你？

这是一个朋友转发给我的信。常常收到类似的让我继续转发的邮件，号称如果这样做了就会怎么样之类，通常我会把自己作为终点，但是这封信打动了我，因为它说：”收到了这封信，是因为有人在默默的祝福，因为你也爱你身边的一些人”。带着爱的，一切将如愿以偿。

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看到了吗？我在默默的祝福你, 所以把它放入我的部落，希望我的朋友都幸福快乐。 (”(^o^)”)

我相信，已遇见过最爱我的人，然而不知道谁是我最爱的，曾经拥有一位非常爱惜的情人。初恋的过后，就是单人行着，一条很遥远，很长的路程，何时会走到期待的交叉路口呢？相信那就是最适合我，能够相处一辈子的人。

－宏－
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介绍另一部很棒的连续剧，不需要下戴, 以下是第一集！要看，你只要Save以下的Link, 剩余的下一集会Autoplaying，如果看过了，你可以按Playnext到要看的那一集。这是我看连续剧的方法哈哈 (”(^o^)”)

心星的淚光 aka Starlit—>

心星的淚光 aka Starlit

Note:
心星的淚光 ep.1 pt.1/5 Starlit
ep= Episode1
pt.1/5= Part 1 out of 5 (Every episode has 5 parts)

1. Know Thyself – Socrates.
From ancient Greece comes this reminder that introspection, keeping a journal, paying attention to the heart of things, comes first. Before we can know the world around us, and make wise choices, we must first come to grips with who we are and what we value.

2. To Thine Own Self Be True – Shakespeare.
In life there is no substitute for integrity. My grandmother was fond of saying, “We either stand for something, or we’ll fall for anything.” Integrity is about going beyond the truth to full and complete honesty, openness and fairness.

3. And the Greatest of These is Love – St Paul .
He also observed that “without love I am just a clanging symbol or a noisy gong.” Without love, caring relationships, and compassion, life is indeed a dry and shallow thing.

4. Imagination Rules the World – Albert Einstein.
The good life is at least partly based on dreams that are worthy of us, dreams that elevate and challenge and inspire our best. Bobby Kennedy noted, “Others look at the world and ask, ‘Why?’ I dream of a world that never was and ask, ‘Why not?’” Martin Luther King’s defiant cry, “I have a dream!” will live long after most of us are gone and forgotten.

5. Too much of a good thing is just right – Mae West.
The good life is about living large, about expressing the joy and love of life. It’s about song, exuberance, and about taking chances, and “going for it”.

6. Opportunities multiply as they are seized – Sun Tzu.
Success depends on the courage to act, and courage in turn requires a level of faith that every opportunity acted upon will lead to more and better ways to serve, learn, grow and prosper.

7. Do, or do not. There is no “try”. – Yoda (The Empire Strikes Back).
Life requires action, boldness and decisiveness. Mae West also observed, “He who hesitates is a damned fool.”

8. Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing left to add, but when there is nothing left to take away – Antoine de St. Exupery.
Henry Thoreau recommended, “Simplify, simplify, simplify. Let your concerns be as 2 or 3, not more.” Friends, work, the media and this thing called the Internet, along with our own “wish lists” try to seduce us to complexity, busy-ness and anxiety. Keep it simple!

9. The artist is nothing without gift, but gift is nothing without work – Emile Zola.
Only focused, intelligent, diligent effort turns potential into reality. Without creative effort, talent and “gift” seem to atrophy and die. Truly a case of “use it or lose it”.

10. There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. – Albert Einstein.
I highly recommend practicing the attitude of gratitude. What else is there?

11 . Believe No Impossible, Do It Incredible - LimShengHong (My Motto)

There is no impossible in this world, there’s a will, there’s always a way. Glory will come to you on the blink of defeat, as long you have Faith and Fight on for your vision, because the end only FATE knows. Plan your work, work your plan. A vision without action is daydreaming, An action without vision is a nightmare.

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1)      I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.

2)      No man or woman is worth your tears & the one who is, wont make you cry

3)      Just because someone doesn’t love the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have

4)      A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand & touches your heart

5)      The worse way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them, knowing you can’t have them

6)      Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile

7)      To the world you may be one person, but to one person, you may be the world.

8)      Don’t waste your time someone, who isn’t willing t o waste their time on you

9)      Maybe god wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful

10)  Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happens sooner rather than later

11)  There’s always people who are going to hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting & just be more careful about who you trust next time around

12)  Make yourself a better person & know who you are before try & know someone else & expect them to know you.

13)  Don’t try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them cameby

14)  Remember that, whatever happens, it happens for a reason

15)  It’s not how many friends you have, it is how many friends who are really care for you.

16)  Life is short, they say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them. But an entire life to forget them.

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These are da inspiring meaningful quates that I had jotted down in my Personal Diary. In a way, I might be a person who doesnt like to do homework, as you know that I would only rush to complete/copy my homework minutes before da class starts. However, I Luv to read or learning new stuffy, I’m a keen reader especially on something relating to my future, economy, legend’s autography, war strategies, revolutions, national geographic and love stories.

When AnwarIbrahim was conspirased and being locked up in jail cell for 6 years, what was he doing to spend his darkness days then? From AnwarIbrahim autography, I found out that Anwar decided to retreat his forces, spent his days like reinforce drill trainings. First month itself, he called his lawyers to buy him legendary autographies, learning strategies and knowledges, seeking inspirations for his future revival. Amongst da books he likes most are like SunTzu-War Strategies (SunZiBingFa), Napoleon and Shakespearce books.

What am I telling about AnwarIbrahim? See, what has happened to our ruling goverment BN now? It shows that knowledge is very powerful, like da old says:”Knowledge is mightier than sword”. Whilst in jail cell Anwar was reinforcing his knowledges and drawing out his strategies, his foes da UMNO-leads ruling govt were all relaxing on their laurels, enjoying the then seemed unfaded ruling power without moving forward.

And 6 years in jail is long enough to master da art of war, 10 years after his conspirased arrest, he applied what he has learned into our country political landscape, da GE outcome is astronomical. Immediate 5 States fell into opposition’s hands, from da 1 parliamentary seated party so-called PKR (Parti Kurang Releven), becoming biggest opposition party in parliament (32 seats-aka Parti Kuat Relevant). He is reaping what he sows.

So I feel it’s vital for us to continue learning when we’re young, never give up in chasing your dreams with actions. A failure in love, career or studies is past tense, treat it as a knowledge for us to learn, rather letting it to haunt our progress in life.

Personally, would highly recommend my friends to read da book (The Empire Strikes Back), it is da reason why I had learned to become someone extremely cool in terms of my patience and endurance towards work and people.

-LimShengHong-

Possible to find a good characters career women who loves pets, husband and family? Oh thats my dream girl, I want it happens, but possible? 

And How many of us able to finally settle down and having a happy loving family, in view of the rising cases of divorse or family bonds meltdown? How many women todays are willing to have more babies, amidst da uprising costs of living, education or even da lil interest of raising kids? In the end, how many of us could be with da right one who we really loved, due to da reasons I mentioned in my previous blog.

Considering from what I’ve observed in my lifetime, da hundred articles that I read, find that it’s pretty common to see relationship breakdown cases, in time when we are moving into new stage. Let me take an common example, guess most of us used to be in a relationship during our secondary/university life, it’s highly probable a relationship starts fading once graduated or stepping into a new surroundings.

Unless your partner someone conservative who is not well-mixed, else it’s very likely (wouldnt say 100%) we could see an eye-opener special one that interested us in future. The reason being that we are moving forward in life, learning, experiencing new challenges, subsequently we realised that ”Oh, thats not what I wanted for my future, or vice versa”. Once you have that feelings, it is considered as good as gone, as your heart could no longer devoted into it, the pain is accumulating if you are delaying da departure. 

Luv To read TheStar Newspapers everyday since form 3, especially da “Hello Thelma” or “Big Brother” sections, where relationship obstacles are being shared by public at large. Relationship problem always started when human beings are adapting into new environment, leaving da past birdnest where love lies. Da main factor in maintaining a relationship is time+effort+heart, lacked of any one of it may ends everything. Of course, ones can forcefully choose to posses new and past altogether, however how many able to handle that? Like da old says:”Having more than enough is bad”. Dragging a fading past would only hampering our progress in life.

I Learnt about 3E, it stands for Experience+Experiment+Expectation. Ones should wisely utilise da experiences gained to conduct experiments for our future, in order to achieve da expectations. Without da experiences and experiments, we wouldnt find da best outcome which suits our expectations, same goes to L.O.V.E. Failures are assumed to be our experiences, mixing around with people is our experiment, or else we wouldnt recognise every colour of life, missing out a lot of exciting new things that we never try before.

No couples want a failure relationship, sometimes it is out of our control, but thats da challenging part of life. Treat every experience/obstacle as an opportunity to improve to be better one!~ 

However, I would like to say, do not give up in time of your loneliness! Once you had given up hope of wanting da right one, gotta be settling down with da wrong one who you might not luv, for Da Rest Of Your Life. My god sis is always telling me that my expectation in love is high, which is a “cheerful, simple, good characters, capable career women who loves pet, husband and babies“? After few years since first love, I’ve found a few in my ACCA course what, though we’re no longer sitting together, I truly believe that we’ll meet each other again or found other similar one in da future right?  I need time to equip my finance too.

However, do not be over-choosy, as this world has no angel or snowwhite in existence. An article I read a moment ago, triggle me penning down my thought about this blog. I afraid that we chinese malaysians, might facing da similar consequences if we’re not awared of it, especially living under UMNO NEP discriminatory policies.

-LimShengHong-

This is da link to da msn article 

Baby gloom haunts Lee

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Luv This Song, Just know it’s da theme of da emotional drama called -MyGirl-

I CRY- Yuri Chika

My Girl MV \”I Cry\”

你心中有这样的一个人吗？

你们可能相爱过，你们也可能喜欢着彼此，
但是，为了什么原因你们没能在一起？
也许他为了朋友之间的义气，不能追你。
也许为了顾及家人的意见 ，你们没有在一起。

也许为了出国深造，他没有要你等他。
也许你们相遇太早，还不懂得珍惜对方。
也许你们相遇太晚，你们身边已经有了另一个人。
也许你回头太迟，对方已不再等待。
也许你们彼此在捉摸对方的心，而迟迟无法跨出界线。

不过即使你们没在一起，你们还是保持了朋友的关系。但是你们心底清楚，对这个人，你比朋友还多了一份关心。即使不能跟他名正言顺的牵着手逛街，你们还是可以做无所不谈的朋友。他有喜欢的人，你口头上会帮他追，心里却不是很清楚你是不是真的希望他追到。

他遇到困难时，你会尽你所能的帮他，不会计较谁又欠了谁。男女朋友吃醋了，你会安抚他们说你和他只是朋友，但你心中会有那么一丝的不确定。每个人这辈子，心中都有过这幺一个特别的朋友，很矛盾的行为。一开始你不甘心只做朋友的，但久了，突然发现这样最好。

你宁愿这样关心他， 总好过你们在一起而有天会分手。
你宁愿做他的朋友，彼此不会吃醋，才可以真的无所不谈。
特别是这样，你还是知道，他永远会关心你的。做不成男女朋友，当他那个特别的朋友，有什么不好呢？你心中的这个特别的朋友…? 是谁呢？

很多的感情，都因为一厢情愿，最后连朋友都当不成了，常常觉得惋惜，可惜一些本来很好的友情，最后却因为对方的一句喜欢你，如果你没有反应，这一段友情似乎也难以维持下去，这也难怪有些人会因此不肯踏出这一步。

因为这就像是一场赌注，表白了之后不是成了男女朋友，要不就连朋友都当不成了。有些事不是你能预料的，或许对方不在意，你们还可以是朋友，但却已经不如从前的好。也是可惜，也是遗憾！但还有没有可能是另一种情况，你可能永远都不甘心只是朋友. . . . .

朋友问我：＂你那么喜欢协助人解决爱情难题，那么会看女生，那你有错过喜欢的人吗？＂我有女朋友的时候，不曾有，她是我心目中最好的，除了她，看不见其他的女生，只想要和她一起渡过每一天。但和初恋分手的四年后，完全忘了她，我心中的确是有出现这个人，相信每男女生曾拥有这样的经验。

我只有两个原因，也不算是错过，只是不去想多。虽然是位有自信, 有把握把事做好的人，初恋的失败，令我完全对爱情失去了信心。现在觉得自己不够好，不优秀，不帅，还没成功，就这样没想去追求，不想她和我在一起没有安全感，不能够给她最好的一切，也害怕没有能力去守护那份感情。另一方面，是个把自己放在最后的人，希望身边的人都幸福快乐，只要欣赏的女生有朋友要追求，或有了男朋友，自然不会想多了，不会破坏别人的感情。

我心中有这个人。
最近谈MSN有和好朋友玩truth&dare游戏，他们以前有问过，没有老实说，现在才肯讲，气死人哈哈。其实我真正欣赏的好女生，大家都是好班友好朋友，她们拥有好的态度很勤劳，每位很成功在数一数二的查帐大公司工作。但奇怪的是，不懂为何她们会听说到我喜欢另一位，那个真的是朋友玩弄我的误会，一个我不想再解释的事情，被朋友误解到好象真的那么样。后来在毕业典礼中，从欣赏的人有认识到一位外面的，交往一个月，可惜俩都是对的人在错的时间认识了，她有一些事无法忘怀。所有事就是这么简单。前面的路程还很遥远，缘由天定，份于人定，属于我们闪闪发亮的前途，我们要各自努力。

－宏－

P／S：前三天我不小心按错publish部落，主题是Faith&Fight, 我要先save它为unpublished的，可是没有发觉到按错，那是还没有经过修改的，所以里面很多无聊废话，有时间我才修改publish过吧，忘记它。

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幸福的抉擇is a really good drama for not only teens and adults, but also this drama is teaching how to make da right choices…and yet to have F.A.I.T.H and F.I.G.H.T on for your dreams… In the end, F.A.T.E prevails though, ones should believe it (”(^o^)”) Summer is exactly like my dream girl, truly beautiful yet a tough one.

Whoever wishes to watch this great drama, but reluctant to spend time download, you can always watch it in youtube as well, even if you’re working ^^

xfdjz 01 pt 1/5
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=86gbbSzjx3o

Note :
Above is da episode 1, the rest of the episodes you can click links beside it.
幸福的抉擇 = xfdjz = xing fu de jue ze
01= Episode 01
Pt 1/5 = Part 1/ 5
There’re 5 parts in every episode.

老实说，
新年亲戚朋友都说我的样貌好看了，
高兴？没这么觉得，完全没有开心，
在我的人生中，这不是我要追求的，
也没有什么改变，只是有照顾而已，
以前在课外活动很活跃，晒到黑黑，
以往骑摩托上学，令我的脸生豆豆，
中学很少钱，最贵的发型是五零吉，
还记得朋友曾跟我到那家理发店屋，
他们吓倒说还是第一次剪这么便宜，
自己也没有时间，从来不在意外表，
觉得天生不帅，怎么样都不会变帅，
现在呢？
由于忙碌学业，没有什么机会打球，
到大学念书才有钱去买理发油等等，
有自己的车，脸没接触到汽车烟雾，
会计师应该要有整齐舒服的外表吧，
因此抽出一些时间去好好整理自己。
我要的是什么？
唯一高兴是听到人说我已进步很多，
这就是我追求的，其他的并不介意，
我觉得人生必须时时刻刻追求进步，
满足站在原地会被时光的变化淘汰，
有心人不怕迟，有坚持才达到成功，
因昨天的经历才有今天更好的我们。

朋友
有人问我：为何你不肯原谅有些人？
已经忘记了，避开是为了保护自己，
也没必要拿别人的过错来惩罚自己，
只不想身边的人没有真诚地对待我，
不想带着急时炸弹，随时会被伤害，
因为真心对待人，就会受超大伤害，
身边的人能真心对待我，那就够了。
如我回来代表我还很珍惜那个友情，
如我离开代表我要你们快乐的决定，
可以说我是个把自己放在最后的人。

-宏-

今天是情人节，看见各个情人并没有嫉妒的心态，反而我在心底默默祝福他们，希望所有天下的有情人都幸福快乐，好好珍惜彼此的感情。因为我相信这么做，别人也会在旁祝福我。

在这情人节，突然让我想起了，要和大家分享一件惊奇的经验，发生在２００３年左右。六年前，我在一家百货公司的皮店打工/promoter，就在那里我遇见一位大约２８岁的哥哥。他是电话＆礼物店的老板，生活经验丰富，很有天分。也教了我包礼物的特别方法哈哈。

当然那不是重点，有一天就象平时那样，去谈天看礼物。他问我，你想信命运/fate吗？以往的我是很有自信，可说我只相信＂天下无难事，只怕有心人＂这个道理，在我的世界没有不可能的事。
我回答：＂我完全不相信命运，每个人的命运是掌握在自己手里的。＂
他笑着说：＂其实我就看得到你不相信，来玩个游戏证明吧。＂
不久我的三个女同事也来谈天，丢下店不管哈哈。

那个哥哥叫我在脑海里随便想个号码，不需要讲或写出来，只要看着他。我选０，哈哈！
那个哥哥非常好奇问：＂你选号码了吗，怎么我没有看到任何号码！＂
我很高兴地说：＂哈哈你输了，我选０咯。＂
他气死说：＂你这个人大笨蛋，０哪里算是号码啊，重头玩过啦，真是的！＂
过后，那个哥哥真的很恐怖，我们四个人在脑海想的号码，他都能猜出来。无话可说我试问他，除了号码，那你可以猜其他的东西吗？
他笑着说：＂可以啊，但不能很准确地猜出来咯＂。
我在脑海想：＂我爱我的女朋友＂ ＆ ＂哥哥，你很YONG SHUI哈哈！＂
他真的猜到：＂你在想你的女朋友对吗？＂还有你在笑我啊？过后那些女生想的一切，他都成功猜出来，哇吓死人！！～

他微笑说：＂其实我是天生能够看得到命运的人，但我不能够告诉你们＂。
我就很好奇地问他：＂那么不是很好玩吗，可以懂得别人在想什么，这种特别能力又可以拿来赚钱咯＂。
他就不高兴地说：＂啊，其实懂得命运是一种痛苦，能懂得不能帮忙，好象有时会遇见要面临死亡的人，不能够做些什么。 还有解开命运的人会短命，受天的惩罚，解开越多越短命，那些算命的人都不会长命的＂。
他说：＂看着大家的交情那么好，我让你们选择知道未来会发生的一件事，但不能准确说一切，免得会短命＂。

那时我还不是很相信命运的，但不妨问问看吧。于是，我们四人就好好想一件想知道的未来。我是把爱情放在第一的男生，选择了爱情！

他看着我说：＂你还是不要懂比较好啦。＂
我不甘愿求他说，反正我相信命运是自己掌握的。
他说：＂你不要生气哦，你是自己要知道的。在爱情，你是个非常可怜的人，你的爱情旅程会走得很辛苦。而且，你不会和现任的女朋友在一起，你们会分手。过后，你的老婆是你的第几任（保密!我不太肯定记得）女友，还有你很爱她，你爱她多过她爱你。＂

听了那种话，非常失望的问：＂能够为爱情付出一切，难道我不会快乐吗？＂
他就说：＂不要担心，你有了孩子之后，会很幸福快乐＂。
我再问：＂如果和现任的初念分手后，以后不能和她在一起了吗？＂
他说：＂这是天定的，不是你的选择，我只能告诉你＂。

哎，接下来的女生听了更吓倒。那个女生问：＂我的未来是做什么的？＂
那个哥哥就告诉她：＂不懂你会不会相信，如果真的要知道，以后你会是一个＇鸡＇。＂
我听了心里想：＂哥，你可在开玩笑吧!＂。

接下来的两位女同事问的都是关于工作或钱财的事，不太记得了。当时不相信命中注定，所以没有把那个哥哥的话放在心里，毕竟我很有信心能够维持那份感情。过后，我就在他的店里买了一个心’love’型的灯当为情人节礼物。

做了两个月左右，不久二月的华人新年快来临。哈哈，这件事和朋友分享吧，但不要讥笑我。我的工作时间是从早十点到晚十一点，很辛苦身为唯一的男员工，所有较重的东西都交给我。老板本来说，华人新年，各个可以轮流请假两天，我就和女朋友约定，在初三去拜年，第一次面见她的父母。隔一天后，老板反口说放假会有超多顾客，要我们每个人，从初一做到十五。我不要女朋友伤心，告诉老板初三一定不能上班。

老板说：＂那你永远不用上班了，真的令我很失望＂。
一个星期后，在华人新年前几天，我考虑清楚再次向老板请假，说初三我真的不能来上班，一直求他。当晚，我被炒了！哈哈，拿了我的所有commissions与月薪RM１２００, 当晚我非常高兴，也许我是很有责任感的人，所以松了一口气，终于可以去女朋友家拜年了。那班女同事很佩服我为了女朋友那么离开。

哈哈所以我对我的第一份工作有深刻的影像。那份工作是我的好朋友介绍的。但是，唯一不愉快的是这位好友不懂真相，中六开学时他告诉班上的好友，升宏被炒。没关系咯，反正是他介绍的。事实是我以上所说的。

２００３年底，我真的和初恋分手了，突然结束三年多的感情。过后的三年，我都是过着很痛苦的日子。由于ACCA的压力与很多的课堂，让我渐渐忘记了那份感情，而且她有了新的。那三年痛苦的每一天让我有了恐惧感，始终没有勇气去面对新的感情。

朋友们常问候，还没有看得上的女人吗？也许我的初念恋相当美，有身材，学历又很高，会令他们有这种感觉。其实遇见很多好女生，是我自己的问题而已，仍然觉得自己不够好，失去信心去进入新的感情，怕自己没有能力去守护它。另方面我觉得还不会赚钱，会没有能力去爱一位她。

我不能象大多数的男人，失去了可以很快进入新感情。感谢好友的关心，他们常说：＂不值得为了一棵树，牺牲整片森林。对我来说，那是尝试找个比较适合的另一半。那是尝试，不是爱情遇见的。在我的世界，如果爱上一位她，森林里只有一棵树，根本看不到其他的花草树木。当我的心给了一个人时候，就不想考虑其他的，不希望去伤害无辜的人。可能我会问候一些女生，仍然我没有去想或行动，我常保持沉默，因为否任会令他们说我怕，没有否任却令他们觉得我喜欢，免得说得越多，错得越多。

但，
去年在我在毕业典礼时，从一位我非常欣赏的优秀女同学，认识了一位我想遇见的她。我和她交往的时候的确是有幸福的感觉的，第二次我深深喜欢上的一个她。虽然她很普通，彼此没有介意彼此的一切，在我眼中，她是最好的。我并没有介意她的经历，只是很生气她的前任男友那么欺骗，对待她，才会多问的。那时又是俩的总考试其间，由于距离的关系，我根本没有时间，没机会去好好为她做些什么咯。

短时间内失去了。尽了力，听从了，忍受了，其实我还可以联络到的，只是不要太避。该做的，做得最好了，剩余的我交给缘分吧，让命运引领着我到希望的结局，会是真的吗？我真的不知道。别人的过错，由我来承担没关系，我所付出的并没有期待回报。希望她会真正地快乐，不要拿别人的过错来惩罚自己。她不能面对我，选择避开，说真的, 我会单念她。

不该做的，我不稍得也做了，令她突然生气。随着时间的流失，相信她会明白我的好意，那么样的结局，才让我失去控制，对她感到万分的歉意。其实俩的思想很相似，我想她能感觉到我在等代着。如果我真的是她想遇见的，以后希望她能够找回我，或缘分能让我们再次遇见。我会怕她进入新感情，但如果可以当她的最后一位，那就够了。

这是第二次了，我的爱情旅程走得很辛苦，真的被那位哥哥讲中。两年前，在夜总会外面我遇见那位同事，我想她真的变成＇鸡＇了，穿得暴露到你不可想象的地步。这几年发生的事，我不得不相信命运／fate～如果可以的话，真的想再见回那位命运哥哥。

以往我的生活态度只相信－faith+fight -, 现在是－fate+faith+fight-,  这几年发生的事，我不得不相信命运／fate～

－宏－

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我超喜欢这一手好歌，一天听了３０次都有(^o^), 或许歌词都代表我的心情呢？

梁静茹 - 属于（幸福的抉择主题曲）

屬於 - 梁靜茹 (【幸福的抉擇 Ido】主題曲)

我堅持的都值得堅持嗎 我所相信的就是真的嗎
如果我趕追求我就敢擁有嗎 而如果都算了不要呢
或許吧或許我永遠都不要遇見他
或許吧或許我太天真了吧

屬於我的昨天之前的結局 我決定我的決定
屬於我的明天之後的憧憬 我迷信我的迷信
屬於我們點點滴滴的傷心 我們要各自忘記
屬於我們閃閃發亮的愛情 我們再一起努力

屬於風的那就去飛翔吧 屬於海洋的那就洶湧的
屬於我們的愛 該來的就來吧
為什麼不敢呢 不要呢？

是他吧 命中早就注定了的那個她

是他吧他原來就在這裡啊

地球上有50億的人在交錯，是什麼原因，讓我遇見了你？
我愛你，是什麼原因，我們沒有在一起？

人們說，關於愛情的起滅，是由緣分所牽引。

儘管沒人真正地親眼看過它、雙手觸碰過它，也無法精準地釋義它，卻篤信它絕對地存在。 就像是一股飄渺又奧妙的力量，安排我們一次又一次在某個剎那，遇見了愛情。

但偏偏緣分是如此不可抗力，無論多麼努力地緊抓，最後捏在手心裡的，卻只是碎成一片片無法拼湊的脆弱。

就像是你我的人生裡，曾經遇到某個人，卻因為時間、地點、背景……等各種原因，讓愛情在轉眼之間從身邊溜走；曾經試圖留住愛情，卻被愛情扔在原地。

於是我們站在緣分的面前，顯得謙遜有禮，不斷地反問自己：「人生裡錯過的事情，有把握能夠再重來一遍嗎？」。

無論是電影情節裡、小說裡、現實生活裡，始終找不出正確的公式和解答，但唯獨一件事情，卻日積月累地清晰可見，那就是當緣分出現的時候，我們只能義無反顧地好好珍惜。

哪怕最終的結局早已註定，遇見緣分時，請勇敢地大聲說出：對不起，我愛你！

by
艾莉絲 (Iris)

《對不起，我愛你》這是一部很棒的電影國片，希望大家能夠多多支持!

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對不起，我愛你!

為什麼失去了 還要被懲罰呢?她是一位难以见到的好女生~

圣诞节快乐！～我想很多人不懂圣诞后一天是BOXING DAY吧，至于名字的来历我不知道，哗哈哈！～为大家播放一手歌。我好喜欢这一手好歌＂五月天 - 你不是真正的快樂＂。其实我听歌是满跟着心情的，随着我听的歌曲，自然而然的你会了解我的心情，是怎么样的人。

五月天 - 你不是真正的快樂

我和几个好友通电话，每位快要毕业了，恭喜！～都有问：＂升宏，那么多年了，难道你还不想去找另一个她吗？我笑着说：＂为何一直问我这种问题呢？当然有喜欢的，觉得自己不够好，一直在学习，我没有什么要求，只要有良好行为，温柔表情充满笑容，有自己的STYLE就完美了。重要还是要个珍惜彼此的对象，我是那种能够为爱情付出一切的痴心男生，因此我最希望她也是同一种。＂哈哈，他们笑了说我很复杂。会吗？

她们赞同为爱情付出的人，往往不会有美好结果，难道女生真的喜欢坏男生吗？那么样有点后悔哈哈，小时候和不三不四的人混在一起, 可以说不是乖小孩吧。所以朋友很惊奇看我很乖斯文，好象读书仔，为何酒量那么好，懂得做那么多事，认识各种各样的人。其实我是在学校台下，看到那些成绩优异生得到奖励称赞，令我很佩服，所以我离开那班朋友，下决心要有好品德，要保持我在好班的位置。就是这样咯，我想今天我们的态度性格是被背景与经验磨成的。我从来没有看不起任何人，因为每人有各人的生活态度！

虽然经济不好，今年圣诞节仍然热闹，高兴去了很多地方走走！～喜欢THE CURVE，MIDVALLEY的气氛～直从大姐去了美国，本身已两年没去BUKIT TINGGI的大姐家。日子短短，就在附近建立规模那么大的BUKIT TINGGI SHOPPING MALL！大姐知道一定会很高兴，两年前她不太喜欢那间家，埋怨象一片大荒地不方便哈哈。

再三个月大姐与姐夫将会回马来西亚，我才发觉时光过得真快。姐夫打算搬回家乡巴生建立一个家庭，代表我，他们俩，和三姐必须离开这间PJ的家，也要踏进社会大学了。爸妈总对我有很大的期望，可能我在姐弟中最坚强，懂得自动走自己要的方向，但是这次真的不知要怎么办.

喜欢这一手歌，它令我想起很多愉快与悲伤的经历。好好思考，有多少个人是真正的快乐呢？我想人生要真正的快乐，是要遇见一位情人，稳定的工作，与生活充满色彩（家人，朋友，快乐，健康，各种活动）。这是我的心愿，永遠記得曾經有位朋友跟我說過＂『如果是你真心想實現的事情，不管多少時間、不管要繞幾圈無論如何，你的心都會引領著你，前往那個方向！』所以啊我在努力拼着，失败因为你放弃，成功因为你坚持。所有的经历让我变得坚强，很有耐心坚决，虽然人变静一点，还好没有失去笑口常开的性格。

２００９新年来临了，在想要回马六甲城市或在KL庆祝呢？ 我暂时没有用DIGI号码，K８００最近车祸，脑部积血，情况严重，在SS２电话店被拯救着。
－宏－

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台北跨年演唱會五月天~離開地球表面~

爱的感觉，总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜，总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担，你终於不再孤单了，至少有一个人想著你、恋著你，不论做什么事情，只要能一起，就是好的，但是慢慢的，随著彼此的认识愈深，你开始发现了对方的缺点，於是问题一个接著一个发生，你开始烦、累，甚至想要逃避，有人说爱情就像在捡石头，总想捡到一个适合自己的，但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？ *她适合你，那你又适合她吗?
其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意，但是记住人是有弹性的，很多事情是可以改变的，只要你有心、有勇气，与其到处去捡未知的石头，还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮磨，你开始磨了吗？很多人以为是因为感情淡了，所以人才会变得懒惰。错！其实是人先被惰性征服，所以感情才会变淡的。
 

       *在某个聚餐的场合, 有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好，这时候有个中年男人忽然说「十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳咧！

*听到了吗？明白了吗？难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。如果每个人都懒得讲话、懒得倾听、懒得制造惊喜、懒得温柔体贴，那么夫妻或是情人之间，又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？所以请记住：有活力的爱情，是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！

*有一对情侣，相约下班後去用餐、逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了，当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟，他的男朋友很不高兴的说：你每次都这样，现在我甚么心情也没了，我以後再也不会等你了！刹那间，女孩终於决堤崩溃了，她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了

*同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的处境；女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，他的男朋友说：我想你一定忙坏了吧！接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上，此刻，女孩流泪了,但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。

你体会到了吗？*其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！

爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时，很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了！懂了吗？当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错。那并不代表你会选择他。       *我们总说：我要找一个你很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，你可能无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。

*没错，我们总是以为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。
可是後来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。
假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？
其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。
或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣，
但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发 觉而已呢？
所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！
他或许已经等你很久喽！

*当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。
所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分用来爱自己。如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来，完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。

*所以请记住，
喝酒不要超过六分醉，
吃饭不要超过七分饱，
爱一个人不要超过八分  

*那天朋友问我：到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢？
我笑著跟他说：其实每个人的爱情观都不一样，说对了叫开导，但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了！

*如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：
爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；
要道歉，也要道谢；
要认错，也要改错；
要体贴，也要体谅；
是接受，而不是忍受；
是宽容，而不是纵容；
是支持，而不是支配；
是慰问，而不是质问；
是倾诉，而不是控诉；
是难忘，而不是遗忘；
是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；
是为对方默默祈求，
而不是向对方诸多要求；
可以浪漫，但不要浪费；
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。

这封信打动了我，因为它说：‘收到了这封信，是因为有人在默默的祝福你，因为你也爱你身边的一些人‘。带着爱的，一切将如愿以偿。

我在默默的祝福你。*^_^* 

单身，有时不一定是贵族。

单身也许会比较自由，

但自由也有一个同义词，叫作寂寞。

因为人不是什麽时候都喜欢一个人独处的；

有时好东西需要跟人分享，

有时候难过需要人安慰。

单身贵族产生的原因，

是因为经济上的独立、

人格上的独立以及感情上的独立。

独立是什麽？

独立是需要而不依赖，

一个独立的人需要异性，而不依赖异性。

做情人之前，她应该先是朋友。

她成为你的朋友之後，出现在你的生活里，

才有可能认识你、了解你、

知道你的长处而对你产生好感，

进一步发展感情，变成情人、对象。

世界上的颜色并非只有白色和黑色，

黑与白之间还有很漫长的灰色地带。

只要多相处，便能发现对方的优点、产生好感，

这才是发展感情的自然过程。

『一见锺情』以及『从一而终』的感情是不切实际的，

我们需要的不是这种不切实际而虚幻的感情。

有人形容跟异性交往，

就好像在海边捡石头，大家都会捡喜欢的那一颗。

一旦捡到一颗你最喜欢的石头，便把它带回家去，

好好对待它，因为那是你唯一的石头。

而且要记住，从此後不要再到海边去。

永远相信我已经找到最大、最美、最适合我的那一颗。

跟异性交往最重要的不是他/她有多好，

而是他/她对你有多好。

一个人如果条件很好，有一百分，

可是这一百分之中，他/她只给你三四十分，或一二十分；

相反地，另一个人也许只有七八十分，

可是他/她却是全心全意的对待你，

那你应该选择那一个？

其实，每一个人的条件都是一样的。

不管你有多好，都还有人比你更好。

你虽然做不到一个『最好的人』，

可是你却做得到一个『对对方最好的人』。

每一个男孩子都可以说：

『虽然我不是世界上最好的男人，

但我是世界上对你最好的男人』。

反过来女孩子也是一样，

这是每一个人都做得到的。

感情最重要的是在於他/她对你的好，

而不是他/她自己有多好。

但是如果有一个人本身已经很好了，

对你又是真心真意，真心爱你，

那麽你真的可以把一生托付给他/她。

现在女性考虑婚姻的唯一条件，

应该就是你爱不爱他，他爱不爱你，

是不是真心真意对你，

跟他在一起会不会有压力，会不会快乐，

而非他有什麽！

人间的真爱是很难得的。

在人的一生中，

很难找到一个你真正爱，

真正可以跟他过一辈子的人。

如果你怯於表达，

或害怕会有什麽事，

错失一辈子可能只有一次的真爱，

那就太可惜了，

所以一定要采取主动，把心里的话说出来。

如果一个男孩子

因为女孩子对他采取主动而看不起她，

那麽这个男孩子不是男生，而是畜生。

更何况，幸福比面子重要，

如果牺牲一时的面子可以换得一生的幸福，

是非常值得的，勇敢把心里的话说出来，

不要隐藏自己的真心。

千万别说缘份未到，其实缘份到处都有，

但却是稍纵即逝，如果『缘』不及时把握，

那就没有『份』了。

大多数的女性对感情是偏重於精神，

男性则偏於物质。

男孩子除了对女孩子殷勤体贴外，

也要学会对女孩子负责任，

要将对天下所有女孩子的殷勤体贴，

全部用来对一个女孩子。

另外，

刚毅木讷并不能讨女孩欢心，

所以要学习对女孩子甜言蜜语，多说好话。

男人，为性而爱；

女人，为爱而性。

一个维持起来轻松、愉快的感情容易长久！

一个维持起来艰难而痛苦的感情不易长久，

这时候就应该有所选择。我们都是凡夫俗子，

要的是平凡而幸福并且快乐的爱情。

对所有的感情而言，过程远比结果重要。

为什麽？因为所有的感情都是没有结果的。

什麽是结果？结婚吗？

结婚之後就过着幸福快乐的日子吗？

可见我们不以感情的结果来评断它的价值感情，

也不以时间的长短来论定它的价值。

对感情而言，凡是发生过的都存在，

凡是存在过的都有价值。

世界上的感情每一段、每一分、每一秒都是值得珍惜的。

婚姻是人生里最大的一场赌局。

在这无限长的时间里，

我们还要互相呈现最丑陋的一面给对方看。

婚姻和恋爱不同的是：

恋爱可以花二个小时打扮自己，

精神奕奕的向对方献殷勤、体贴，轻松完成任务。

可是婚姻就无法随时维持高亢的状态。

所以，婚姻是一场大赌注，

需有万全的准备、周详的计划、十足的信心，

然後再去押它一把，即使是这样都还有可能输掉。

因此如果在赌之前，

就知道自己不是心甘情愿、不是很爱他/她、

并不想跟他/她过一辈子，

那麽这一场赌注注定是要输的。

千万不要为了爱情之外的任何一个理由结婚。

感情的可贵不在於可从对方获得什麽，

一方面是一种被依赖、被需要的感觉。

有人依赖我，需要我，我会得到满足。

面对感情，我们所要采取的就是三不政策：

第一是不急：不要急着结婚。

结婚虽然是很美好的事，

但是不要着急该是你的就是你的。

第二是不怕：不要害怕付出。

彼此必需一辈子努力，才能把感情维持好。

你不可能『得到』一个美好的感情，

你只能找到一个你心爱的人，

来共同经营、造就、完成一段美好的感情。

如果你没决心做好男人，那你就得不到好女人。

世界上没有一个坏男人会有一个好女人，

坏男人只会有可怜的女人；

同样的，也没有一个坏女人会有一个好男人。

何况感情中还有一个跟我们共同努力、想把它做好的人。

这个合伙事业成功的机会是很大的，

关键就在於你是否愿意努力、付出而已。

第三是不要放弃。

当你受了打击、挫折、伤害，

当你感到灰心、失望时，

有一个人无条件的、永远站在你这一边，

支持你、鼓励你、安慰你，

让你重新站起来面对这个世界。

这个力量，是再亲的父母不能给我们的，

是再要好的朋友也不能给我们的，

只有在人生的旅程中所找到的心爱的伴侣，

才能够给我们。

其实爱情是人生唯一的、真正珍贵的；

也是唯一的、真正值得追求的东西。

只要你有一个心爱的人，

你就有了原动力，

你就能面对全世界。
_______________________________________________________________

09/09/2007

爱情的完美  自己也曾感受过  从中深深学习了很多

能真心真意  不代表会够永久  只能有个美好的过程

感情的事情  没人能预测最后  我们只能尽量与期望

曾付出一切  因所以我没遗憾  换为心中的美好回忆

只想要真爱  一个顺其自然的  所以从来不想去尝试

我想要一个  能一起度过艰难  只在乎相情相爱的人

我的梦想是  在生活最困苦时  出现一位支持我的她

有人对我说  等你成功了以后  就不怕没人不爱上你

不喜欢这种  失去爱情的意义  没有爱情推动的感觉

在这生活中  难以遇见梦想的  但我从来没有放弃过

没什么要求  要的是笑口常开  坚强懂得做各种事的

为什么我那么有信心呢？

其实是因为三年前的初念是真爱

一位爱你因为是你的人

我能够慢慢等待第二真爱的出现

真心人一定会有好结果

每人心底有欣赏的公主我不例外

只怕不懂她对我的感觉

希望不会错过梦想的白雪公主吧

我现在的生活充满色彩

认识了好多朋友希望能天长地久

虽然成绩这次令我失望

本身也不喜欢成绩宣布的那一天

班上少了许多美好的人

每个学期每当已找到了美好天堂

这一天都会让我很伤心

希望大家会记得一起经过的点点

想说我珍惜身边每个人

只希望和真诚朋友渡过美好时光

对我来说生活充满色彩

只要坚强向前迈进就会拥有幸福

希望认识更多真心朋友

每位认识的人是我生活中的色彩

是好是坏都是光辉岁月

不能答应什么但会真心对待你们！

-宏-